Posts Tagged with ‘Marriage’
20 Jan 2012
I think we all remember this poor schmuck who got the death glare seen around the world when he dropped his daughter while catching a ball. I don’t think it ended well for him that night. Navigating marriage is tricky, especially when you don’t have viable models (both our parents are divorced). So I turn to self-help books and forwards. These gems are courtesy of my Uncle Joe who sends the fam about a dozen forwards a day. This one actually made me laugh. Uncle Joe and my auntie have been happily married for almost 30 years, are part of their church’s couples ministry and are a beacon of hope and light for me and my better half. This list seems like the blueprint to a happy marriage that I’ll make sure he commits to memory. (1) Fine: This is the word women use to end an argument when they are right and you need to shut up (2) Five minutes: If she is getting dressed, this means a half hour. Five minutes is only five minutes if you have just been given five more minutes to watch the game before helping around the house. (3) Nothing: This is the…
09 Jan 2012
TV writer Tracy McMillan wrote one of the most memorable things I’ve ever read about marriage. You can get advise from Dr. Phil and any of the hundreds of supposed experts on love and relationships, but nothing has resonated quite as strongly as what she had to say in her controversial HuffPo piece Why You’re Not Married. Even though I’ve known my beloved for years, something about marriage is truly transformative. No matter what anyone says, marriage is totally different from being just bf & gf. The bottom line is that marriage is just a long-term opportunity to practice loving someone even when they don’t deserve it. Because most of the time, your messy, farting, macaroni-and-cheese eating man will not be doing what you want him to. But as you give him love anyway — because you have made up your mind to transform yourself into a person who is practicing being kind, deep, virtuous, truthful, giving, and most of all, accepting of your own dear self — you will find that you will experience the very thing you wanted all along: Love.